This is valuable advice for anyone and particularly for young people in the developmental stages.

You can have more people like you today by being authentic.

Advertising used to be accepted for being cute or cutting edge and now it seems like lying.  Facebook and social media make people say and do things that seem hard to believe or at best disingenuous.  We try too hard to be perfect when being real would do just fine.  The standards are set high in a society that boasts the number of friends it has in social media.

Here is a short course on being well liked:

1. The more you try, the more you stand for nothing or as Margaret Thatcher said, “If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing”.
2. Work hard at pleasing others.  That’s saying a lot in the current climate of self-absorption.  Steve Martin made the point:  “Bad psychoanalysis would say I enjoyed pleasing people, working really hard and pleasing people, which is probably related to my father in some way. But I really liked working hard. When I worked at Disneyland, I’d do 12 hours straight and go home thrilled”.
3. Be an original not a copy.  If you try to be someone else who is great, you will still only be an imitation.
4. Be open to all kinds of people.  As I used to tell my USC students, as we age we largely rely on our established network of friends and acquaintances.  Engage different cliques.
5. Be approachable.  A smile or a kind word let’s others know you are available to be a friend.

Being authentic means being real – admitting to making mistakes and not being perfect and always be willing to cherish your new found ability to be happy with yourself as you are.

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