People who are newly in love crave the company of each other.

Longer-term relationships often become devoid of that passion, interest and warmth that came so easily in the beginning.

Marriage, children, work can take its toll.

All the marriage counselors, books and date nights out will not necessarily recapture that loving feeling.

Find novelty where there is love.

Find new ways to do things.

Put that cellphone away after checking messages and emails.

Focus on walking home a new way.

Finding a new place to eat.

Shopping for something new to wear that you’ve never owned before.

Two people who continually look for ways to find novelty where love is are able to recapture exactly how it felt when they met.

A girl tells her boyfriend:

– After our marriage I will let you kiss me where nobody else has kissed me.

– Where is that?

– In Hawaii.

Okay, it doesn’t have to be an expensive trip.

Anthropologist Helen Fisher says, “Research shows that novelty–taking risks or trying something new–can trigger the release of dopamine in the brain.  I’m not just talking about novelty in the bedroom (although that would be a good start). You can get the same effect from sampling a new type of cuisine together or riding the roller coaster at an amusement park.”

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