Hate your enemies and you become them.
Forgive but don’t forget and you rise above them.
Forgiving does not mean forgetting.
Letting go of the pain they inflict feels so much better than holding on to something that continually hurts and makes us more like the people we detest.
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“I was thinking about you”
We think about people in our lives every day, but do we tell them?
Share it – you’re already thinking it.
This is one phrase that is effective in any form of communication – text, phone, in-person or video.
Action step: make one minute or less QuickTime video and send it to the person you are thinking about.
If someone puts you down, they are a fool.
If you put yourself down by underestimating your potential and accomplishments, you are the bigger fool.
Allowing others to tear you down is self-destruction.
No one succeeds who doubts themselves.
Keep trying to change someone and you will always be miserable.
Change their politics.
Their priorities.
Their goals.
Their beliefs.
It cannot be done.
Concentrate on the one person you can change – you.
The opposite of FOMO is going on an adventure and experiencing the unexpected.
FOMO has been proven to add anxiety to everyday living.
Lower expectations and set off on an adventure, give up control and let whatever happens happen.
Replace fear of missing out with willingness to go all in.
One key doesn’t open every lock and there is no one way to get people to cooperate – it takes a different key to unlock people.
Sometimes it’s not even a key, but a FOB. Assuming that one way to win cooperation from any someone will work on everyone will lead to disappointment. Every person requires different things. So the idea is not to use a master key to get the best out of people but to carry around a bunch of keys that will inspire others to follow you.
I ain’t lookin’ to compete with you
Beat on, cheat on, mistreat you
Simplify you, classify you
Deny, defy, mystify you
Frighten you or uptighten you
Drag you down or drain you down
Chain you down or bring you down
Now I ain’t lookin’ to block you up
Dock or rock or lock you up
Analyze you, categorize you
Finalize or advertise you
I don’t want to straight-face you
Race or chase or track or trace you
Or disgrace you or displace you
Or define you or confine you
Now I don’t want to meet your kin
Make you spin or do you in
Or select you or dissect you
Or inspect you or reject you
All I really want to do … is be friends with you.
All I Really Want to Do lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Darwin talked about survival of the fittest but now a new book is focusing on survival of the friendliest.
Cooperation and sociability are turning out to be just as important as physical strength and endurance especially in the high-tech age.
Dogs and wolves are cited as examples. Wolves being strong and fierce and dogs being their friendly descendants. Wolves are endangered. Dogs are people’s best friend and exist in great numbers.
Friendliness may be worth doubling down on from the board room to personal relationships. Learning how to win cooperation and teamwork are the skills that can make us thrive.
Alex Trebek has had two heart attacks, survived brain surgery for blood clots, lived through an automobile accident and now is fighting a deadly and painful cancer, pancreatic.
Last year, he was sighted in his office so sick from chemotherapy that he was on the floor sobbing in pain. And yet he refused to cancel the marathon tapings of “Jeopardy!”.
Announcer Johnny Gilbert is quoted as saying “Once I introduce him on that stage, he is Alex Trebek. You can tell that that’s what he’s living for.”
What are we living for? What makes us work through pain, disappointment and anxiety to overcome adversity. Alex Trebek is putting on a real time clinic.