A caddy gives advice and strategy but the player makes the decisions.

Giving away the right to decide happens because of stronger personalities, control issues and fear on our part that we might blow it so we play it safe and give away our power.

Advice is a valuable tool but no substitute for making your own decisions.

We look to others, but should look to ourselves.

Approval comes from within by assessing your sincerity, passion, reliability, skill level and motivation.

Leaving this up to someone else is a recipe for trouble.

Did you do your best?

Are you doing it for the right reasons? 

Are you capable of making it happen?

Are you willing to stick to it until you succeed?

The person you absolutely must win over first is you.  No one else matters.

You don’t get more fit by getting more comfortable.

Walk more, run more, box more, more Yoga, more challenges.

Those Peloton commercials are attractive because they show what getting uncomfortable can produce in fitness and physique.

Getting out of your comfort zone to strive for more makes you stronger.

A new way to conduct a meeting, a different approach to teams, redefining leadership.

If you’re comfortable, you’re likely not growing.

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.  The second best time is now” – Chinese proverb.

It’s not laziness that prevents us from acting, it’s lack of confidence.

When we’re sure, we’re more likely to get started.

To get an extra supply of confidence that is needed in life, do as Shakespeare said, “assume a virtue if you have it not”.

So today, it’s ready, set, I can do it.

Bill Gates in reviewing the book The Case for Reason, Science, Humanitaism and Progress noted how life has improved for us over the decades:

 “Time spent doing laundry fell from 11.5 hours a week in 1920 to an hour and a half in 2014”.  

So what are we doing with the extra time and what other things take less time in a modern world?

Are we giving it to others?

Spending it on ourselves?

Are we learning, growing, helping?

Or are we bingeing, distracted by social media or playing games?

There is no doubt life has become easier, but are we using the valuable time better?

There’s a thought for today.

My longtime friend Mike LaBauve shared a pledge from podcaster Harry Sleighel who was talking about the Be Kind People Project.

Here is their pledge that embodies the skills of kindness that I thought was worth passing along.

I Pledge To …

– Be Encouraging

– Be Supportive

– Be Positive

– Be Helpful

– Be Honest

– Be Considerate

– Be Thankful

– Be Responsible

– Be Respectful

– Be A Friend

In sports you don’t take the field with the mindset that you’re afraid to lose.

It’s the opposite – you can’t wait to win.

But how many of us can’t wait to win in other areas of our lives?

Playing it safe, harboring doubts, being defensive will likely yield the same poor results off the field as they would on.

When you have a challenge, relish it.

Expect to win – or at least give 100% trying.

Learn from losses and move on to the next challenge.

Never fear losing, relish winning.

You go up to bat, take a few swings, try to get on base and if you don’t, you think about taking another shot at it next time up.

If you allow it to bother you, you could get into a slump.

If you try to get a hit every time at bat, you will never feel good about yourself because it is impossible.

A .250 hitter can earn millions.

Anticipate the next at-bat and try again.

Learn from mistakes.

Practice with a purpose.

Hope for a hit but don’t be discouraged by a miss.

Isn’t this also the game plan for a successful life?

They become more anxious and possibly become more depressed when their owners overuse their phones.

Philly veterinarian Dr. Alexander Collada explains it:

“Dogs do read body language, they read our eye contact … They read our facial expressions, so if we are on our phone and acting disinterested, and they’re looking for attention, it basically is ignoring your dog.”

Imagine how people feel.

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The evidence is in and multitasking is a myth.

You’re not smarter, more efficient or more productive by trying to do more than one thing simultaneously.

Overthink.  Overdo.  Add to the anxiety.

If this hasn’t become apparent, it soon will.

One step at a time.  One thing at a time.  Important stuff first.

The new reality is that it may actually be better not to do everything we can but to decide what few things we can do better.

More important than doing is deciding.

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