Everyone has what it takes to become a more confident person – it’s just that some people instinctively know how to unleash it.

It doesn’t take a lecture or a TED video to be more assertive – confident people speak up instead of overthinking it.

Becoming a leader isn’t complicated, but it does take vowing to be that leader.

One of my NYU students recently spoke of how much they wanted to lead a class group project and by the time the groups were formed, had the look and desire that made them the unanimous choice.

Wishing won’t do it, acting will.

According to studies, employees who take the benefit of unlimited vacation tend to take less time off  — two fewer days on average according to a Namely study quoted in a recent New York Times article.

Employers that allow workers to take as many days off as they want usually don’t have to pay for vacation days employees don’t use.

Some companies like Netflix and LinkedIn are among those that actually want their employees to have more of a work/life balance.

Even without employers looking for either a hiring tool or a way to legitimately keep their people healthy, the goal is more work/life balance are the best benefits.

“There’s no such thing as work-life balance. There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.” – Jack Welch.

Animated motivation is the secret to winning enthusiastic cooperation.

Those who are animated visually, expressively and vocally are hard to resist.

When first meeting people, do they see the enthusiastic you or you-at-rest?

Can they feel your energy or are you holding it back (or can’t find it)?

The first day of classes at NYU, I try to be ani-motivated so my students who are trying to figure me out leave saying this guy really wants to be with us.

It’s in all of us – hit the button and go.

Shakespeare put it better:  “Assume a virtue if you have it not”.

Hamlet didn’t mean pretend, he meant find the virtue and make it yours by adoption if nothing else.

And as with most things in life, adoption is 9/10^th of becoming a better person as opposed to waiting until you feel confidence.

Action precedes confidence.

Allowing others to pass judgment on you is convicting yourself voluntarily for what they have done wrong.

Judging is useless.

All of us retain the right to be the judge, jury and executioner in our own lives!

We decide and we carry out what we think is in our best interest and then execute it.

The way to stop allowing others to judge you is by cultivating the confidence to take your own advice and do the best that you can — not waiting for others to render an opinion they have no right to make.

Ted Lasso (Jason Sudeikis’ motivational character in the hit Apple TV series of the same name) is famous for saying:

“You know what the happiest animal on earth is?  It’s a goldfish. Y’know why?  It’s got a ten-second memory.  Be a goldfish.”

Forget failure – it’s temporary anyway.  Why hold on to negative self-destructive thoughts when you can refocus on positive ones?

Filmmaker and writer Marlowe Granados (interviewed in Town & Country) says “While the 1960s brought us the exhortation to “turn on, tune in, and drop out” the motto of the roaring 2020s may very well be” “slow down, log off, opt out”.

One of the things we are discovering most since the pandemic started winding down is the need for planned, structured and positive relaxation routines – getting the most out of downtime.

Purposeful relaxation is in your hands – being in the moment, connecting the mind and body and that’s different from bingeing on Netflix, playing video games or taking a nap.

Turn off autopilot, enter the here and now.

Postpone working your to-do list until after you relax as opposed to worrying about it when you’re trying to focus on downtime.

Talk to others 100% focused on them.

Sense your surroundings and enjoy the sensations that have been taken for granted.

Life is tough and rest is necessary but purposeful relaxation is totally in your control.

The best way to gauge whether you had a happy and successful Memorial Day weekend holiday is by the number of minutes you did not spend on mobile devices and in the black hole of social media.

Initiate something new – anything big or small.

Hang with someone different.

Reconnect with nature and those around you face to face.

Spending a holiday weekend without changing your routine is a missed opportunity to discover a new one.

A little infant in our arms brings out the wonder and inhibition of being a child even to the most dignified person.

After all, they are born happy until the real world somehow makes them sadder.

One of many gifts we get from the young is to treat other people in our lives with the animation, smile, laugh and love that is so easy to give a newborn or toddler.

Be the one to light up the face of others and you’ll see (and feel) the difference immediately.