Waiting is the multiplier of stress and anxiety.
Whatever the concern, the longer the wait for resolution, the more intense things get.
Waiting for an outcome can rarely be accelerated.
Do, don’t stew to keep anxiety from making an uncomfortable situation worse.
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Think about it. Why do we assume something will go wrong?
Failure is the default setting that must be overcome.
That’s betting against yourself.
People who succeed don’t assume that they will fail. They expect another victory. They do not allow others to place a bet against them.
If it’s worth dreaming, it’s worth assuming that you will eventually prevail.
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There is no need to create more time. There is already enough.
The question is how do you want to use it?
If more time is created by dropping some things from life, other things will just replace them.
Do less but do more of what is important to you.
To find more time, choose 2 things out of every ten that are important and make them a priority. The other tasks can go on “hold” – most of them will never need to be completed.
Feeling overwhelmed comes from the pressures of others added to our own list of life’s to-do’s that usually ends in disaster.
Less is more when it is the things that matter the most.
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Compassion.
Not advice.
Not help.
Not even compliments.
Humans cannot live without compassion which means if we want to connect with others in a meaningful way, don’t be their shrink, cheerleader or advisor.
“I feel like my world is upside down”
“That must be awful”
“I’m so stressed”
“I can’t imagine how anxious it makes you feel”
“I’m so slammed I can’t do it all”
“What a burden that must feel like”
Compassion is sympathy for the sufferings and misfortunes of others.
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The most important question is the one to which you already know (or think you know) the answer.
I worked for a radio program director named Paul Drew. He was a force unto himself. Sharp, curt but I liked him and he liked me.
In our conversations I often found myself satisfying his curiosity but suspecting that he knew the answers. One day I flat out asked him.
“Why are you asking me about this, you must already have heard about it”.
His response: “If I try to impress you with what I know, I won’t learn anything new”.
It’s the Columbo response – the disheveled TV detective who sounded dumb but was the guy who solved the case.
The person with the all the answers asked the best questions and got more information than he would have if he tried to impress me with what he knew.
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This recession talk that has been escalating lately is a dangerous stressor.
No matter how secure we feel, worrying about something that may not happen at all is the first step to increased anxiety.
This is the classic worry syndrome – worrying about worry.
The answer is to get rid of fear thoughts and replace them with forethought.
Strengthen your contacts, reassess that you are working in a field that has upward growth potential, create a plan B. Sock some money away. None of these things cause anxiety. They are reassuring.
How insane is it to worry for months and even years about something that, if it does happen, is unfortunate but not the end of the world?
And one more positive: look for people who found opportunity when they were forced to face adversity. You won’t have to look far.
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40% of families eating together engage in no conversation.
They have their fork in one hand and their phone in the other.
Self-imposed social isolation is real.
Combatting loneliness is now a choice.
Physical activity and good relationships reduce loneliness.
Using the smartphone – to call someone, not text which is isolating.
Severely cut back on social media – it is an attention black hole. Rarely does anyone feel less lonely due to social media.
Recently I saw a mom put her phone away and invite her daughter to do the same.
Connecting was that simple.
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Why would we waste even one second criticizing ourselves?
How does that help?
Most damaging criticism comes from within.
When others say it, we push back.
Get out of the business of being your biggest critic and get into the public relations business – promote all that is good.
If you can’t do it, how can you expect others to provide you with the confidence that lives within.
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Fear.
The stress of others that affects us.
Hopelessness.
A major life change.
Something unforeseen, unpredictable.
Social issues.
Every one of these triggers require an opt in on your part.
You can also opt out.
I won’t let my employer give me their fears.
I won’t fear anything until I ask what is the worst that can happen?
When a major life change hits, I can seek help before I take on the burden of stress.
When I am blindsided by stress, I will put a stop/hold on it until I can wrap my mind around it.
Every stressor has a trigger and the power is in our hands to opt out not jump in.
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