You can’t really win an argument.
You can bully someone into saying they agree with you or inflame them even further by forcing them to defend themselves just because they don’t agree with you.
Or, assuming you can’t avoid an argument as Dale Carnegie always recommends as the first important step, then enjoy it.
Ask the other person to layout their case.
Don’t disagree or ask them to agree with you.
In fact, don’t tell them your position until they ask.
An argument is usually about power.
There is a winner and a loser.
But if you decide that there will be no winners and losers, just learners, then you can shake hands and see the other person’s point of view without having to abandon yours.
If you are in a relationship where the other person has to win every argument, you may need to remove yourself from it.
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