A Perfect World

The world’s not perfect, but it’s not that bad
If we got each other, and that’s all we have
I will be your brother, and I’ll hold your hand
You should know I’ll be there for you
When the world’s not perfect
When the world’s not kind
If we have each other then we’ll both be fine
I will be your brother, and I’ll hold your hand
You should know I’ll be there for you

“If We Have Each Other” By Alec Benjamin / Alex Hope
© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner Chappell Music, Inc

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Cooperate with the Inevitable

My father lost his leg to disease.

I was with him on the night before the surgery wondering why he didn’t talk about the planned amputation in the morning.  I was more worried than he was if that was possible.

Following surgery and rehab, he was fitted for a prosthesis, drove a car (it was his right leg that was amputated so he had a special adapted accelerator on the left side under the steering wheel).

He wallpapered rooms (a one-legged paperhanger he used to say).  Planted and harvested a garden every year.  Worked.  Did almost anything everyone else did.

I’m sure he wished that he had his leg back (and he did complain of phantom pains in his foot that no longer existed – something doctors said was normal).  But he never talked about that.

He accepted the inevitable because he knew there was no way to change it.

In our lives with perhaps lesser challenges, it is still important to know what can be changed and what cannot and to accept what cannot to live a full, happy life.

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Confidence Builder

Are you the person who walks into a meeting and sits in the back of the room or the far end of the table?

The person with confidence assumes the air of confidence and walks right to the front row even if no one else is sitting in it.

The funny thing about confidence is you can read books and watch videos of other people but there is no substitute for practicing it every day in every way.

Confidence can’t be coached.

It can only be experienced in real time.

Not only will others notice but more importantly you will feel it as well.

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Recognition by Co-Workers

Penn Medicine in Philadelphia has an innovative way to infuse lasting recognition in their workers.

Each employee is rated by fellow employees who describe the qualities they like best in that person.  Then the favorable comments are listed on a framed document that hangs in their workplace for them to see and for patients to be introduced to them.

The best recognition comes from peers and it has the most lasting positive effect on everyone in the work environment.

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Prioritizing Worry

All worries are not created equal, but that is not to say we prioritize what we fear by worrying about the most serious first.

Even trivial worries get the same amount of anxiety.

If each worry got a priority – major, important but not critical, irritating but trivial, etc. – anxiety could be reduced immediately on the spot.

The problem with worry is that it all feels bad even though our fears don’t take on the same importance.  After a while, all worry becomes the same and becomes overwhelming.

We slap tags on everything else, why not worry?

By putting worries in their proper place this morning, you can feel some relief by the end of the day.

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Nailing Your Goal

The goal is not the final destination.

The journey is the goal because in pursuit you may alter it, discover a better one or decide that after some thought what you were shooting for is not worth the sacrifice.

This matters because goal-setters tend to fashion their lives to chase one goal that they may or may not eventually accomplish.

The secret is to establish goals in our daily lives as a means of discovery and accomplishment.

There is no finish line.  Just the pursuit of excellence.

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To Get Your Way

… give up control and let others get their way when possible.

… when asked to choose, defer to others every once in a while.

… stand for principle not stubbornness.

… offer to help another get what they want before you ask what you want.

… be a good listener because the secret to winning cooperation is likely on the lips of the person whose cooperation you seek.

… be willing to earn the right to prevail not just forcing it.

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Binging Life

Netflix has taught us that we expect to get what we want when we want it.  That’s why binging episode after episode is so normal.

When Showtime or HBO makes us wait for subsequent episodes, a binger usually doesn’t like it.

TV aside, some things are worth savoring.

Time with someone special.

That moment when you’ve just accomplished something special – worth holding onto and replaying often.

Speeding up life to get to the end is a rather awful thought because life is best when it is enjoyed moment by moment in real time.

Consuming everything to rush to the end is powerful but slowing it all down to savor every bit of it is empowering.

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Count the Cant’s

If you changed every can’t you say in the next hour to can, your life would be transformed.

Suddenly the new default setting is “possible”.

And then, you start expecting to achieve.

Saying “can’t” instead of “can” is self-inflicted failure.

The way we talk to ourselves matters.

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Finding Confidence

Turning to others for that which should come from within you rarely works.

Confidence comes from believing in yourself.

When a sports team wins game after game, they believe they can’t lose.

When they are on a losing streak, they believe they can’t win.

Outsourcing confidence to a friend, loved one or associate is not as effective as focusing on what’s good about you.

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