Gaining Confidence

Sounding confident doesn’t mean being confident.

Talk to yourself as a believer in you – not to convince other people that you are competent.

Instant confidence booster:  always think of the things you do well, no reason to concentrate on things you are criticized for.

Confidence is perishable – when things go good it automatically gets better, when things are tough, confidence is strained. 

Sticking with something is a confidence builder.

Failing is a strength, take credit for your willingness to overcome adversity. 

Often, just saying something positive about yourself, builds confidence. 

Before I speak to audiences, I always remind myself that I have earned the right to be standing there.  That I have the skills to share what is on my mind and that I respect the audience the way I expect them to respect me.   It never fails.

Confidence is your ability to handle anything, deal with everything and stick with it until you succeed.

Failing has nothing to do with losing confidence.

Forgetting about the fine person you are has everything to do with it.

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Overcoming Doubt

It’s normal to question ourselves from time to time.

But never to doubt our ability, motives or confidence.

Never bet against yourself. 

Overcome doubt with focusing on past accomplishments – big and small. 

Doubt is personal sabotage. 

Anything worth doing is worth believing.

Often doubting ourselves is simply fear of failing – banish the thought. 

It’s not fair to ask others to believe in you if you’re not prepared to believe in yourself.

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Giving Up

Why do we give up?

Nothing good happens when we stop trying.

It’s self-inflicted – no one makes us do it.

Giving up means you really don’t want it that much.

No one gets to discourage you from your dreams and ambitions.

Another word for giving up is surrender – never, never willingly surrender pursuing the life that you want. 

No person – no matter how powerful or close – can hurt us more than we hurt ourselves by giving up. 

If it’s worth doing or worth having, it’s worth fighting for.

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Combatting Loneliness

The good news about loneliness is that you have lots of other people feeling the same way who are also looking for a meaningful connection.

Looking for friendship is a surefire way not to find it.

Spend all efforts on being the person you want to be not someone you think others might like. 

Think of yourself as an icebreaker – most people are looking for someone to go first so hit start. 

Loneliness is not shameful or embarrassing – it means you are hungry for stimulation and compassion.

A social media friend is not necessarily a friend – loneliness is combatted in real time.

Your new motto – do, don’t stew.  Reach out.

Loneliness is a choice, but there are better ones like anticipating something positive that can happen when you decide to replace it with friendliness.

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Learning Forgiveness

The divorced couple acting punitively against each other and often their children are an emotional mess that takes a huge toll.

Life is full of people who acted in a way that is over the top – inhumane, mean, even viscous.

Some people don’t deserve forgiveness, but do it for your sake.

To forgive does not mean to forget.

Forgiveness does not mean putting up with continued abuse that must be stopped in its tracks.

Don’t ask the perpetrator to also forgive – forgiveness is unilateral and without strings.

You don’t have to tell the other person that you forgive them, just know it yourself.

If you won’t forgive the other person because they don’t deserve it, you run the risk of becoming like the other person. 

We gain control by giving up control and living life the way we want to be.

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