It’s not Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or even TikTok, the current social media phenomenon.

It has nothing to do with anything you might say or do.

If you want people to be drawn to you, become a better listener.

It’s not taught in schools because only you can teach it to yourself.

Listen, question and summarize what you are hearing.

Ironically, it’s the listener not the talker who people like.

Stop and ask yourself where the most successful people in the world would have been if they stopped one step short of success.

Before you give up ask yourself this one question – how badly do I want it?

There you will find your motivation to proceed.

I am only needy when I choose to rely on someone else instead of first believing in myself.

Here are some in the arsenal of positivity quotes I focus on when I need an extra boost of confidence:

• I earned the right to do it.
• I didn’t get to where I am today without working hard for it.
• I’m authentic and I’m going to prove it.
• I’ve done it before and I can do it again.
• I believe (Self-doubt kills more dreams than failure).
• If I’m worried about how I may look, I’ll add a smile as the finishing touch.
• Butterflies are normal, I’m not going to get rid of them, I’m going to get those butterflies to fly in formation.

• Do you notice how often people say the word “right” today when explaining themselves or trying to convince you of something – “It’s the biggest problem of our time, right?”
• No is the most valuable word in the dictionary because it gives us the courage it takes to say yes when we really mean it.

• Often parents feel badly about not spending enough quality time with the kids so they increase the amount and not the quality and by quality, I mean person-to-person connection.
• The amount of time you spend with people you really care about is irrelevant. It’s the time spent being present and 100% focused on them without distraction that matters most.

Seth Godin has a different way of looking at yourself:

• “If you had a manager that talked to you the way you talked to you, you’d quit. If you had a boss that wasted as much of your time as you do, they’d fire her. If an organization developed its employees as poorly as you are developing yourself, it would soon go under.”
• The best way to become a better manager at home or at work is to be kind to yourself, invest in your potential and never doubt your confidence.

• Staying busy won’t eliminate every worry but it will slow them down.
• There are two ways to put the brakes on worry – one is to get busy doing something for others that requires you to focus as much on them as possible.
• The other way is to stay busy doing something you like that gets your mind off of the worry-of-the-moment so you can lose yourself in something all encompassing.
• Time outs work – when they’re done with the focus on someone or something else, the benefit is the greatest.

• Too much work, too many things to do, too much multitasking.
• Our lives have become one giant attempt to multitask and while doing multiple things at once is possible, it is also stressful.
• Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you can’t do it — it means you should find another way to do it or get to know our best friend – no.
• We have more tools than ever to take on more things but now it’s time to get serious about prioritizing and living a less stressful life.
• Stress is caused by others with an assist from ourselves.

• This self-inflicted form of harm serves no purpose.
• Many people beat themselves up even before their work is not accepted or their suggestions haven’t even been given the time to be considered.
• There is a better way to stop second guessing yourself – assume your work and thoughts are just as good as everyone else’s which, of course, they are.
• Beating yourself up amounts to anticipation that your efforts could eventually be rejected – instead, own them and make no apologies (especially in advance).