I had a friend who lost his son at 18 due to suicide.
Yesterday I met a woman whose boyfriend died two years ago from lung cancer while she continues to mourn.
You don’t have to lose a loved one in the prime of their years to feel genuine loss. My mother passed away at 96 and I miss her every day.
There are many stages of grief.
I once asked a well-known counselor how long grief should last and he replied, as long as it lasts.
How long is that?
Whenever the grieving is complete as long as you can continue to function in your everyday life. If not, it’s time to seek counseling to better cope.
The way to add meaning to the loss of someone dear to you is to isolate the one characteristic that he or she had that you most admired.
Then devote your life attempting to make that trait a part of you.
In that way, the deceased lives on through you.
And in some small way, their death is a just a bit easier to accept.
Gandhi said it eloquently:
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart”.