The evidence is in and multitasking is a myth.

You’re not smarter, more efficient or more productive by trying to do more than one thing simultaneously.

Overthink.  Overdo.  Add to the anxiety.

If this hasn’t become apparent, it soon will.

One step at a time.  One thing at a time.  Important stuff first.

The new reality is that it may actually be better not to do everything we can but to decide what few things we can do better.

More important than doing is deciding.

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Negative Thinking

It’s remarkable how easily most folks can rattle off what’s wrong with them but have a harder time articulating what’s good and right.

When we hang around more positive people, we become more positive but that is not always possible – in fact, sadly sometimes our negativity comes from families.

Another way to look at things is to balance off every negative thought with a positive one.

I didn’t get the job, but I did a good interview.

I wasn’t able to help my dear friend, but I was there for her.

I spend too much time working, but when I am home I am laser focused in the present. 

There is something positive out of every negative but is today the day we start looking for it?

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Cancer Is a Word — Not a Sentence

That is a quote from John Diamond.

October is breast cancer awareness month – a disease that affects millions of loved ones each year and thousands of men.

Here is more inspiration from the mouths of survivors.

  • “Once I overcame breast cancer, I wasn’t afraid of anything anymore.” — Melissa Etheridge
  • “It’s about focusing on the fight, not the fright.” — Robin Roberts
  • “And if it comes back, I’ll keep fighting.” — Nicole Kramer
  • “The only person who can save you is you.” — Sheryl Crow
  • “Breast cancer changes you, and the change can be beautiful.” — Jane Cook

Cancer surviors earn the gift of living life to the fullest by turning adversity into gratitude.

An $8,000 Tip

Perhaps you heard that Houston Rockets player Russell Westbrook left an $8,000 tip to the Disney hotel staff that has been helping NBA teams continue to play basketball safely in the bubble.

Other players likely left tips as well just not as large.

Westbrook’s got the money, but he’s also got the generosity because it doesn’t take a high figure talent to show gratitude.

And it doesn’t always take money.

A note, a word and a gift if you can afford it goes a long way to making others feel appreciated.

It’s a way of putting words into action and it’s a real-time reminder that as much as the tip was, the gratitude will be felt forever.

Van Halen

David Lee Roth thought he was the band but Eddie Van Halen turned out to be the indispensable one.

Sammy Hagar replaced Roth and the band played on.

But before the lockdown the talented Hagar was playing to smaller crowds.

People need people.

Even really talented people.

Sometimes the magic is made by collaboration – few have the abilty to continue on while changing parts as Van Halen did.

It’s a testimony to the iconic Van Halen upon his death but also a reminder that there’s talent and there is magic.

And ego has nothing to do with making it.

Judging Yourself

Why are we so caught up in the way others think about us or worse yet what we think others think of us?

“No judging” applies to the way we see ourselves, too.

Who we want to be and how are we living up to it at any given moment.

If the actor is concerned with how the audience perceives them, then they are distracted from what really matters – giving the best performance.

You don’t judge your time in the marathon by how fast the winner completed the course, but by your best time.

The same is true in every area of life.

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The Work/Life Question

It’s not necessarily a balance of work and life, but a keen appreciation.

Not the number of hours you spend, but the time focused on things and people that are important to you.

Becoming a better parent, spouse or employee does not come down to how much time you spend but what you do with the time you have.

“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it. If you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don’t throw it away.”  — Stephen Hawking

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People Who Let You Down

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” —  Maya Angelou 

You can decide to live with it or to walk away.

The ultimate power is in the hands of the person whose feelings are hurt not those of the abuser.

You Can Control Your Happiness

A new study confirms it and backs it up with scientific answers.

If you believe you have it within your power to control your happiness, you can.

The happiest people don’t wait around for luck to make them feel better, they find ways to turn adversity into success.

It comes down to prioritizing what can be controlled and what cannot.

Here are the results of the Tracking Happiness study.

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The Panic Attack Rise

Psychologists have discovered a significant increase in Google searches for anxiety, panic attacks and treatments for panic attacks.

A Tulanne University study indicates that this may just be the tip of the iceberg.

There are many ways to deal with panic and anxiety when they occur but eliminating the episodes requires changing the way panic prone people look at things.

I recommend to my NYU music business students to read the best book ever written on the fear and worry that drives panic attacks – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.

Here’s a crib sheet.

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