Bullying is not reserved to big loud obvious people. Even quiet voices can intimidate.
Being left out is a subtle form of bullying that says you are not like us and until you are you will not be included. When people are voicing disappointment, they are gaining the right to vote on our behavior — if we listen. It’s difficult to not be affected because the human condition is to do what it takes to get along. One solution is to reclaim the right to vote on how you feel about the way people talk to you. Repeated negative comments about age, appearance, weight or personal preferences can be as painful as a punch in the gut. When someone tries to have your way, vote no.